By Andrea Peña
Staff Writer
Asking a person on a date can be one of the hardest things to do. You never know what the other person is going to say or even thinking. There are many ways to ask someone out. People just need to find the technique that works for them.
“You plan what you say before you say it, and you think of steps ahead, it’s kind of like a chess game. You have to make the right moves or else you’ll lose your queen,” said Ivory Parker Jr., an 18-year-old Business Administration major at CSUB.
Many people find it difficult to know whether a guy or girl is single or in a relationship. Some guys say it is hard to know if a girl is single because many girls wear rings on their wedding fingers. Once they see the ring they automatically cross them off their list as a potential date. Girls also find it tough when guys surround themselves with the ladies.
“It depends on the girl really, some will let a guy know right away if she is seeing someone,” said Jorey Braughton, a credential student at California State University, Bakersfield. If you are truly interested in someone and want to know what their relationship status is, just ask them.
When it comes to actually asking someone out, people do not agree on whether it should be the man’s job or the woman’s. There will never be a right or wrong answer to this question. It all depends on if you prefer the traditional approach or if you like to take charge. However, there are men and women that believe tradition is the best way.
“The best way to know if you’re going to get a date is to get to know the person. Aim to be friends first. If you don’t get a date at least you have new friend,” Zoila Word, a first year student at CSUB.
Another frequently asked question is: how long should I wait to ask someone on a date? There are many different opinions. Some believe being friends first and getting to know each other is more successful than just asking someone on the spot. But if you’re feeling gutsy, you should just do it.
“If you want to ask someone out, just go for it. What’s the worst that can happen? All she can do is say no.” said Roberto Palacios, a 21-year-old P.E.A.K. major at CSUB.
Now, many people think pick-up lines are cheesy and don’t have much of an effect on people. James Barragan, a 21-year-old Business-marketing major at CSUB, explains how he used a pick up line on a girl as an icebreaker. His pick-up line was effective and landed him a seven month relationship with the girl.
If you have a hard time going up to someone or are just terrified of being shot down, you could always give online dating a chance. E-harmony, match.com and other dating websites offer ways to get to know people that live in your city or someone that lives in a given radius of you. There is nothing wrong with online dating and it actually has been proven successful. However, the only downside is you have to pay a monthly fee, which could add up with time.
