“So, me and my best friend have been best friends since we were seven years old. She moved to a city that’s about two hours away from where I live, but we still remain in contact via social media, text, etc. now she seems to be avoiding me and I asked her what was wrong and she said “this friendship isn’t it working out and I need space” and we have not talked in about four months. We are still friends on social media and we watch each other stories but we don’t like each other’s content. What should I do?” 

Thanks for reaching out, for starters! I totally feel you, because I am in the same situation. My best friend of over 11 years and I got into a fight, and we haven’t spoken since May. So, trust me when I say I totally empathize with you! I’ve had experiences with MANY people I have called a “best friend” or “close friend,” and I have come to learn and realize a lot.  

A quote that a close friend reminded me of recently says, “Friends are there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.”   

Now, of course, this doesn’t apply to all friends, but your best friend potentially may have just been a part of your life for a reason, even though we think those best friends are there for a lifetime. One of the things that I’ve learned is that some friends are just in your life for a short time, whether it’s to teach you something or give you something you need.   

For all you know, she may be going through something that you do not know about, so I recommend you give it time and see if she eventually reaches out to you to try to reconcile. Though it is a hard pill for many of us to swallow, sometimes friendships end suddenly without reason or closure. It sounds like to me that you didn’t do anything wrong, so don’t beat yourself up. Know you did your best, and that you reached out to communicate with her.   

However, you also need to know your worth and should surround yourself with people who care about you and show that they care, which means communicating when things get tough. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with people who will care about you for a lifetime, but also don’t be afraid of those “reason” or “seasonal” friendships, as hard or heartbreaking as it may be when those end. I hope this helps! <3 

From the Heart,  

Brianna